The first step is acceptance

As parents, we all want our children to be accepted, liked by their peers, excel academically, and thrive in every aspect of life. But let’s face it—being a kid can be tough. And as parents, we often set high expectations for them. I’ll admit, I’ve been guilty of this myself. The truth is, every child is unique—even identical twins. Each child thinks, feels, and learns in their own way. 

Some children are naturally calm and flexible, able to manage their emotions with ease. Others may excel as athletes, creative artists, or academically gifted students. Some are shy and reserved, while others thrive in the spotlight. There are children who flourish in structured activities, and those who shine in unstructured or mixed environments. 

As both a professional in the field and a mother, I understand the struggles parents face. Questions like: Why isn’t my child like other kids? Why do they struggle with personal space? Why won’t they just listen? Or why are they so full of energy in the morning, like they’ve had five cups of espresso? These thoughts are common. We compare our children to others, feel isolated, worry about their ability to make friends, and agonize over their challenges. 

The reality is, comparing your child to others can be one of the most harmful things—for both you and your child. Every child is unique, and each faces their own challenges. Ignoring these challenges won’t make them disappear. Fortunately, there are specialists, resources, and programs designed to support a variety of needs. 

When we stop dwelling on the what ifs and start focusing on solutions, we discover tools and strategies that truly work for our children. It won’t always be easy—it’s a learning process as they grow—but taking action can make all the difference. 

The first step is acceptance: recognizing that every child faces challenges, though some may face more than others. From there, it’s about helping them build the skills they need, seeking proper assessments, and embracing labels that provide clarity and support. With the right mindset and resources, we can guide our children toward a brighter future.